How Music Affects Your Emotions Directly
July 20, 2021
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You should… have some healthy alternatives for self-medicating your mental health. I find there is nothing better than music.
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How You Feel Matters Less Than What You Do—Refocus Your Attention For Better Results
July 5, 2021
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Asking someone whose emotional states fluctuate dangerously how they feel on a subjective 5-point scale is the equivalent of asking an obviously drunk person if they’re drunk, and what they think they’d blow.
Overcoming Anxiety—Stop Making Worry Payments On A Lay-Away Plan
July 3, 2021
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Focus on the moment and the resources you have on hand to meet it. You don’t need resources for tomorrow yet, or for next week, or next month.
Conflicts Are Unavoidable – Sometimes You Must Engage, But Not Like This
June 12, 2021
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In an athletic contest, with no moral or social ramifications whatsoever, I engaged…even though I was just a fan, with zero power to affect the outcome.
The Good Opinion Of Some People Is Not Worth Having
June 11, 2021
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While I believe the good opinion of some people is not worth having, I do think it’s worthwhile to have someone in your life who will push you to be your best, even if they’ve seen you at your worst. I’m aiming to be that kind of writer. Even though I don’t know you, I’m of a mind that there is far too much unrealized good in most people.
Your Will Cannot Control Your Emotions – Truth To Live By
June 5, 2021
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If you cannot make yourself feel a certain way by willing the feeling into existence, neither can you will the feeling out of existence, once you’re feeling it.
Go Granular When You Feel Bad
June 4, 2021
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Going ”granular” yields analysis of your feelings with specificity. And the process of ferreting out precisely what you’re feeling, will often reveal why you’re feeling it. Oftentimes, this discovery is the insight you need to change the way you feel.
All Emotions Are Valid Even If All Responses Are Not
June 2, 2021
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All Emotions Are Valid – All Responses Are Not. Allow everyone in your life to feel how they feel. Don’t alienate them by emotional ignorance. A firsthand story of my own journey to emotional intelligence.
Learn To Listen…No, Really Listen
June 1, 2021
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We are told learning to listen well starts with paying attention. This is true. But where does undistracted attention start? What can our first experiences with listening tell us about being good listeners as adults? Here’s my theory.