Tag: true wealth

  • Invest In Yourself Without Apology – 4 Simple Ways

    Invest In Yourself Without Apology – 4 Simple Ways

    Return On InvestmenI- iPad with ROI graph - Invest in Yourself
    Invest in Yourself and get the greatest possible ROI (Adobe Stock image licensed to author)

    # 52 on my, 99 Life Tips – A List is: Invest in yourself without apology by reading, exploring, learning, exercising.

    True wealth does not consist in possessions that can be listed on a will or a homeowner’s insurance policy. True wealth is not a medium of exchange in the typical sense, the way mere money is. Nevertheless, to acquire riches that don’t tarnish, that aren’t subject to the vagaries of ”market forces”, and that keep supplying a return, you must invest in yourself without apology. Here are four simple, yet effective, ways to do that.

    1- Read

    I count this as life’s most important skill. Unless you read, you only get to try on and live one life. By reading even mediocre writing, you can use your vast imagination to inhabit another world. By reading you meld your mind, with its limited, finite table of contents, with the minds of every writer you sample. You become multi-perspectived. 

    This is of incalculable worth. For if a person can never see beyond themselves; that is, if they can never see the world from another’s viewpoint and ”put themselves in another’s shoes”, how can they ever see other people as anything but objects to be used?

    2- Explore

    Reading is a type of exploration, but by this head, I mean that a person should explore their surroundings in a state of awareness that allows for the possibility of unexpected discovery. One aspect of exploration is to see or to experience a common thing in a new way. I try, as much as possible, to go through each day, and even to move about my house, or walk the streets of my neighborhood, as if I’ve never seen them before.

    Here’a a tip to help with this mindset. You have never lived this particular day before. And you never will again. Explore it. Mine it. Extract all of the beauty and pleasure and knowledge and appreciation out of it you possibly can. Become an explorer of this day, and find all there is to be found.

    3- Learn

    If you read and explore you will gain knowledge. The accumulation of knowledge is like a person who, by reading and exploring, notices and collects puzzle pieces. Eventually, the learner accumulates enough pieces to see patterns emerge. Some of the pieces fit together exactly. In some places there are gaps. By arranging and linking and connecting the tidbits of stored knowledge, one begins to see recurring themes.

    At some point you will have pieced together enough related knowledge to be Competent in that area. Continue adding pieces on the way to Mastery.

    The other benefit is the humility and even the mild melancholia that comes to the one who realizes that his puzzle may never be finished. There is no clear, absolute picture to go by. There will be sections with no pieces that seem to match. The yearning sadness is the unavoidable flip side of gratitude for having learned so much, yet the recognition that there is so much left to know, that may never be known. 

    Nevertheless, the Learner would never trade what he knows for a trifle like a car, or a house, or another of life’s accessories. If knowledge suddenly became the medium of exchange, he would not give away a single piece of his puzzle.

    4- Exercise

    I used to believe the most valuable commodity in life was Time. We’re all on the clock, after all. But a shift in my perspective makes me believe that the most valuable commodity is actually health. I would not want to live an innumerable number of days, sick. You may feel differently but consider, if health became the basis of your paycheck, and not hours, how much health would you trade for your pay?

    To this end, exercise is the single most important thing I can do to help. Well, that and consuming only as many calories of the highest quality I can afford to sustain life with the energy requirements of my body and lifestyle. 

    Start by walking. Healthy humans are ambulatory. We walk upright on two legs. I’ve made the incalculably rich discovery that walking is both means and end. It is perhaps the most spiritual physical practice a person can undertake. 

    In Summary

    Invest in yourself without apology. We need you at your absolute best. I’ll try to be at my best for you, too.

  • Winner? Really? I Don’t Think That Word Means What You Think It Means

    Hockey scoreboard showing one team ahead. Easy to determine the winner by counting goals, a detail that matters in hockey games.
    The scoreboard shows a running count of goals scored. The team with the most goals at the end of the game wins. In life, scoring is not so simple. Photo: Kevin Kiester, Raleigh News and Observer, May, 2019

    As a hockey fan, I’ve often reflected on a phrase I once heard from the coach of my favorite team. 

    ”Play the game the right way and the results will take care of themselves.”

    Rod Brind’Amour, Head Coach, Carolina Hurricanes

    Coach Brind’Amour wasn’t saying that his team would win every game. He was saying that by playing the right way, they would give themselves the opportunity to win every game. Playing the right way; being a good hockey team, is the consistent, incessant determination to apply effort to details that matter. This is why he expressed his confidence that if this focus remained fixed, positive results would follow.

    Determining a win in an athletic event is much easier than determining a win in life. A team simply needs to outscore the other team. You can tally hockey goals or touchdowns. In life, who are you competing against? Your co-worker? Your family member? The neighbors? The ”others”? And how do you keep score? What do you measure?

    Hey “Winner,” who is the competition?

    Unless you are an athlete, the only person to compete against in life is yourself. (And even if you’re an athlete, you still need to compete against yourself).

    The self you’re competing against is any iteration that is less than the best possible version. Any version you cannot unequivocally respect in every area, you should mercilessly thrash into oblivion. (Of course, this assumes the knowledge of what to respect. Character is a detail that matters. It counts higher than a bank account.)

    And this is why the only winners in life are the ones who consistently, strategically apply their efforts to details that matter. They know what matters, and what is worth their finite time and energy.

    People thinking themselves ”winners” solely because they’ve acquired some money, possessions, or any other thing that can be counted up and put on a spreadsheet, who are morally bankrupt, and mentally shallow, aren’t winners. Rather, they are jackasses.

    Focusing on the wrong details, they spend their energy accumulating and fretting over countable things, when true wealth doesn’t fit on a balance sheet. In the end, the results will take care of themselves.