# 8 on my, 99 Life Tips – A List is: If you’re a guy, open car doors for your date, girlfriend, wife, lover. It’s a small way to say, ”I’m aware of how lucky I am to have you in my life at this moment in time, and this is a simple way I can show it.”

Yes. This one is sexist. I’m writing to guys. I am one. Get over it. That being said, I’ve never had a woman offer to open my car door. It’s just never been a thing.

When I see my sons open the door for their dates, I feel proud, like maybe I’ve instilled something good in them.

I admittedly do not know the protocol for same-sex relationships. But, in the absence of any protocol, I think the second part of my tip still applies.

There is a very large return to relationships from small, ordinary investments of acknowledgement and appreciation.

Taking a partner for granted is a relationship killer. I’m sure that’s true across the spectrum.